Sunday, April 15, 2007

Why can't we all just get along?

So I started my Next pair of toe ups. I went with the Collinette Jitterbug in Jay--I love this yarn!! Lornas Laces is lovely but Jitterbug is Da Bomb! It is so vivid and has a great feel, it knits up perfectly and evenly and is just the nicest sock yarn I've worked with so far. Nicer than Trekking, nicer than Reggia and Sorry LL I love you but nicer than Lorna's Laces too (those are the only sock yarns I've tried so far although there are others yet to be tried in my stash)

I fell so in love with Jitterbug that I bought it in two more colours: Fruit Coulis and Bright Charcoal, thinking of course of more socks. Now that I have it, I am thinking it might make a really lovely Chevron Scarf from "Last Minute Knitted Gifts". The colours complement each other beautifully. What do you think?

I do have quite the hoard of sock yarn now. In with my order for Jitterbug, I also ordered one skein of Louet Gems in "Carribean Blue" to use as toes and heels with my left over Lorna's Laces "Lakeview"and some Zen Yarn Garden sock yarn in "Pacific Grove". I liked the idea of a sock yarn that comes with the co-ordinating toe and heel colour and being from the West Coast, the name holds a certain appeal. I also joined two sock clubs. The Make One Sock Club which starts in May and the Sweet Sheep (the source of my most recent sock yarn mana) sock club which started in March. So far from the SS Sock Club I have received Sweet Sheep's own "Spring Tulips" and All Things Heather "Spring Fling" I love the colours from the Sweet Sheep Club, they are springy and bright and oh so girly… they make me think of brightly coloured flower gardens and little girls skipping rope… and the yarns feel lovely… and they come with lovely little extras… like a sheep stitch marker and several samples of S.O.A.K. yarn wash but so far… the colours aren't really me. However… the whole point of joining two sock clubs was to try yarns I normally might not so I am not complaining. Sweet Sheep has fantastic service, very quick turn around and a lovely personal touch.

Other than that, thanks so much to everyone who has commented on my recent troubles with the boy and his school. I am finding the whole process painfully slow. There aren't enough professionals in the area of children's mental health and that means a lot of waiting.

The school has done some good things, accepted that they have to make more effort too. The boy wasn't getting the right accommodations for his ADD and that was contributing to the anxiety. They've set him up with a mentor which seems to be a good thing.

I am using some strategies that work. An incentive program for a good week at school, accepting the realities of my son's anxiety, if I can calm the situation and bring the levels of anxiety down sometimes we can stop it in it's tracks. Getting him to look down the road to a good weekend helps get him past the one bad day. Sometimes humor works: if I can lighten things up and get some laughter going. Making sure the boy gets enough sleep, eats properly, takes his meds, gets some exercise (Rugby starts tomorrow)--all that routine stuff seems to help--reassuring him that we are going to figure out what's going on and make it better.

The worst possible thing is when I give in to my own fears, raise my voice, loose my temper. When my X was here he was making noise about taking the boy to live in ON because in his opinion, "What else do you expect from him with you for a mother". Then as he put it "You can fork over the money every month". In my X's opinion the only thing wrong with our son is my lousy parenting (this despite a history of anxiety and/or depression on both sides). I let my fear completely overwhelm me. My anxiety went through the roof and anxiety feeds on anxiety. There was a lot of recovery work to make up for that. The boy doesn't want to live with his Dad, he dreads seeing him and I have to reassure him that unless he wants to, he doesn't have to. The boy has been talking to his Grandma as well (my X's Mom, a decent and smart lady) and hopefully she will help her son see that what he is doing is wrong.

Here are my dog and the X's cat (now mine) asking that age old question: "Why can't we all just get along?".

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Blogger The_Add_Knitter said...

Seeing the Jitterbug makes me want it so darn much!!

Don't think I hate all Canadian bands, just Nickleback! I love the Arcade Fire and Sarah Harmer...

6:59 PM  
Blogger Australoknitticus said...

Glad to hear some progress is being made re: your boy!! I am drooling over your sock yarns. Verra pretty.

9:15 PM  
Blogger dana said...

I can't see the pictures! :(
I guess I'll just have to imagine how luscious all the yarns are...

PS: Don't listen to a thing your X says about your parenting skills. It sounds to me like you are doing a wonderful job and taking all the necessary steps to help your son cope with the nastiness of a school system that's not set up to meet his needs. Good luck!

8:49 AM  
Blogger Knittingbeauty said...

Love the Jitterbug! I need to find me some of that!
I feel for your quest to find solutions for your son's anxiety/depression. I had a long year of figuring out that was my problem and I know first hand that many people who don't have first hand experience often don't understand how crippling anxiety can be. And it is nobody's fault! It is like having diabetes or a heart condition. I hope that your journey for answers becomes less rocky.

7:00 PM  
Blogger quiltyknitwit said...

My heart goes out to you. Aren't you glad you and your son don't have to live with Mr. X anymore! You are doing all the right things. These types of mood/anxiety problems don't have any quick fixes - it just takes lots of patience and learning along the way. Your boy has a place in this world, and it will all come together eventually (I speak from experience!).

6:12 PM  

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